The Sneaky Enemy of a Happy Marriage

For certain spouses in a covenant, one-flesh union, the days of being newlyweds seem like a very distant past.  Especially if there were no children on the scene initially, those were the blissful days where the honeymoon seemingly would never end.  Spontaneous vacations may have been the normative; the marriage bedroom was always steamy; and, acts of love were plentiful.

But, all of sudden for the wife, the dirty socks and the toilet seat become significant annoyances.  For the husband, the nagging and complaining suddenly appear unbearable.  And, sadly, for these spouses, life becomes very monotonous and dull.  They go to work and come back home at the same time; they engage in the same “hoopin and hollerin;” they say the same words every day; and, the marriage bed is devoid of anything new.

Soon, these couples realize that they have been going around in circles for a definite amount of time.  Monotony, the sneaky enemy of happy marriages, has gradually crept in.   Oftentimes, one of the spouses believes that the overall solution of breaking out of this rut is to change their spouse.  After all, in their mind, their spouse is the problem.  But, the culpability of monotony resides with both spouses.

To add excitement and youthfulness back to your one-flesh union and to truly enjoy the wonderful institution of marriage created by Yahweh, the Father of our Lord Christ Jesus, spouses should move forward with adventure.  That is, try new and fresh things together, even if they appear to be somewhat risky.  Try ethnic foods that you’ve never eaten; go shopping at unique stores; try an adventurous sporting event; go to a new type of cultural event as often as you can; read books in the Word of God that you have never read, etc.  The amount of ideas are countless.  With the help of the Holy Spirit, strive to keep your marriage as refreshing as the morning dew.

Somewhere There Is A Song (Poem for Single Believers)

Somewhere, there is a song,
A song that speaks to me, grooves me, soothes me, loves me,
Like the beautiful bass of cello strings,
Like the magnificent baritone of brass horns,
Like the alluring tenor of golden woodwinds,
Like the opulent soprano of a thousand psalmists,
Somewhere, there is a song just for me.

Somewhere, there is a song,
I want to feel this song, hug this song, touch this song, kiss this song,
caress this song, spend time in the marriage bed with this song,
Somewhere, there is a song just for me.

Jesus, my Savior and Lord,
Is there a song for me?
I’m tired of walking the lonely deserts of Hagar,
I’m tired of the same ole’ songs that don’t move me,
I’m tired of my dreams being deferred,
I need a new song in my life, a song that will love me,
respect me, teach me, heal me and honor me,
Is this too much to ask for?

This song entitled, “A Man of God Just For Me,”
Is he too much to ask for?
A man who will bless me spiritually, emotionally and oh yes, physically,
Loving that is so good…well, I’m going to leave that to my imagination,
Somewhere, there is a song; somewhere there is a song just for me,
Somewhere, there is a Boaz for me, and I’m his Ruth,
The most beautiful ballad, and he is just for me.

How To Be A Magnificent and Better Lover

Can you be a magnificent and better lover? Absolutely! Similar to a vibrant marriage, great sex requires continual attention, hard work and a perpetual willingness to improve. Oftentimes, sex within the context of marriage becomes very stagnant and boring, because one or both spouses are unwilling to improve. In some cases, husbands may feel like they are already the “Don Juan” of sex and wives may surmise that they are the “Queen Bee of Love.”

To be sure, self-confidence and self-love are extremely important for our overall well-being and health. But, pride can be very detrimental especially as it relates to marriage and sex. If we are honest, many spouses would concur that they are mediocre lovers at best.

There are a plethora of gimmicks and products on the market that promises to make you a better lover. But, there is no magic pill or secret to becoming a magnificent and better lover. The primary key is to simply practice humility- knowing that there is always room for improvement. There are hundreds upon hundreds of new positions and foreplay techniques that await you and your spouse. Relative to your existing positions and techniques, there are creative ways to add more spice.

May you and yours practice genuine humility and do your best to ensure that sex within the context of your marriage continues to improve beyond imagination. May your sex room and marriage bed be filled with pure love and ecstasy! Until next time!

Welcome to Solomon’s Suite

Solomon’s Suite is a new blog created by author and columnist Anthony Jerrod with an emphasis on Christian living and love and marriage.  The blog is named after one of Jerrod’s popular and well-received poems entitled, “Solomon’s Suite,” which mirrors the most romantic book in the Word of God – The Song of Songs.

This site is purposed to be a written compilation of positive encouragement that unashamedly helps married couples improve their one-flesh union in Christ.  In accordance with Hebrews 13:4, Jerrod believes that the marriage bed is honorable and that sex is a beautiful and wonderful gift from God within the context of marriage.

Solomon’s Suite also has been established to assist single believers in improving their biblical-based courtship and to help all believers in a diverse array of areas relative to abundant Christian living.